repair

You can’t repair what someone refuses to acknowledge ever broke.

Repair requires two things:
1. Accountability
2. Reciprocity

Naming what hurts, staying open, asking for honesty. Not responding with silence or avoidance. It isn’t offering performance and distance on their terms so they can say they’re the ones who didn’t shut the door even though they have already bolted it from the inside.

It’s not about making it feel like you are the unreasonable one for needing something real. For needing response, engagement, truth. It’s not wrong to ask to be treated like someone whose pain matters and not be framed as the one preventing healing. It is not your fault that they refuse to meet you anywhere but in delusion, silence, or self-defense. It’s okay to stop trying to fix what only breaks you. It’s okay to stop offering repair to people who keep handing you performance in return especially when they are just unwilling to love you in the way that honors your reality.