dreameraki blog

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i love you

Whatever this world is, whatever you are, whatever I am, we are here now. Interacting. Reacting to each other. Responding to each other. Affecting each other. We are here now. Whatever unknowns there may be, I know that I am here as I am. With you. From my end, I show you me as me. This is me. This is us now. No matter whatever else may be, I […]

The Lie of Being Nice

Being nice can reduce everyday friction with people who are acting in good faith but it does nothing against someone whose real problem is that you bring awareness to the things they would rather avoid. You can be calm, careful, generous, precise, and compassionate, and they will still not like it if the truth threatens their self-image, control, convenience, or access. Then thoughtfulness gives them more room to cloud […]

Actualization

Space is the stage of extension, but time is the dimension of unfolding/change. Space alone is not the full reality. Time is what makes reality a process instead of just a layout. An equation can exist as a whole structure all at once: given this, relating to that, under these conditions, this is what follows but we don’t experience the whole equation at once. We have to move through […]

recurrence

When the world goes round and roundAnd when the stars follow the sameWhen it all moves and changes groundAnd goes back to where we all cameI will find you again and againOver and over each and every timeOur threads will build and rebuildUntil all our scattered sparks shine

Moral Injury

They hid themselves in the language of goodness while letting cruelty and othering happen. They mishandled things that should have been basic integrity. They had the language of regulation, mindfulness, accountability, nonjudgment, effectiveness… then they behaved in ways that were mindless, ego-protective, invalidating, and harmful. They doled out harm while claiming to be the kind of people or system that should know better, while using values-language to protect them, […]

Memory Exercises

Memory works better when we slow down, notice on purpose, connect information to something meaningful, and practice pulling it back out. 1. Three-Thing Recall Pause a few times a day and intentionally notice 3 things.Then later, try to recall those 3 things without looking at notes. 2. Repeat and Restate When someone says something important, repeat it back in your own words. Example: “So you want me to call […]

Egocentrism… Humancentrism

We keep thinking our current view of things is the structure of reality and the universe itself and how things just are. We get taught and come up with myths, categories, labels, and certainty because they help us orient but then we get arrogant and start forcing those views as the final, absolute truth instead of just temporary and provisional. Then when some new point of view comes along […]

Coming Back to Your Own Weird Little Soul

a Misty Mindfulness Moment Get yourself situated in whatever way feels the least annoying. Sit down.Lie down.Curl up like a little creature.Wrap yourself in a blanket if you want. We don’t need perfect posture.We don’t need to pretend to be enlightened.We don’t need to pretend to be serene. Just be here. Take a breath in.Let it out. You do not need to become calm immediately.You do not need to […]

Strengthening Your Sense of Self

Our sense of self changes as we go through life. It is not just something you find once and keep forever. Sometimes we coast by or get so stuck in survival that we forget what matters to us. We start feeling disconnected from ourselves and wonder what the heck happened. These questions are meant to help us notice ourselves more clearly and begin teasing out the noise that keeps […]

bad for me drug

Sometimes there’s a deep, very old craving for someone’s love, approval, and understanding. There can also be a long history of getting little hits of love that was mixed with manipulation and invalidation. Then it trained a body and mind that remembers the high and the crash that even today still sometimes wonders if one more hit will finally be the good one. When we crave their love but […]