Being nice can reduce everyday friction with people who are acting in good faith. But it does almost nothing against someone whose real problem is that you saw more than they wanted you to. You can be calm, careful, generous, precise, and compassionate, and they will still attack if the truth threatens their self-image, control, convenience, or access. Sometimes your thoughtfulness gives them more room to maneuver because you […]
Misty Relos
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In the dark i am the lightTo anyone who loses their mindTo only see what they seeFree from pain and misery From that lightThat burns the eyesLives the truthWith nowhere to hide But the darkThat was always thereWaits for no oneWith nothing to share
I am where dreams go to dieAnd i am where hope hidesI am where the screams get loudAnd i am where there is no sound I am where thoughts subsideAnd i am where sensations rideInto the void where nothing is keptInto the love that spills over the rest
i love you like the nightalways chases the dayand i love you like thunderstormsalways have something to say i love you like the windtries to reach up and out of spaceand travels through the voidand paints the galaxy in lace i love you like the moonlights up the darkand i love you like the worldnever gave me any scars
someday somewherein a moment out of timethere live our heartsforever entertwined our hearts didn’t just tangle togetherthey entered each other’s worlds and stayed thereforever.
and it keeps getting stronger until we become a brand new singularity over and over again
Space is the stage of extension, but time is the dimension of unfolding/change. Space alone is not the full reality. Time is what makes reality a process instead of just a layout. An equation can exist as a whole structure all at once: given this, relating to that, under these conditions, this is what follows. But we don’t experience the whole equation at once. We have to move through […]
When the world goes round and roundAnd when the stars follow the sameWhen it all moves and changes groundAnd goes back to where we all cameI will find you again and againOver and over each and every timeOur threads will build and rebuildUntil all our scattered sparks shine
They hid themselves in the language of goodness while letting cruelty and othering happen. They mishandled things that should have been basic integrity. They had the language of regulation, mindfulness, accountability, nonjudgment, effectiveness… then they behaved in ways that were mindless, ego-protective, invalidating, and harmful. They doled out harm while claiming to be the kind of people or system that should know better, while using values-language to protect them, […]
I love that you keep bringing me into your world.
Memory works better when we slow down, notice on purpose, connect information to something meaningful, and practice pulling it back out. 1. Three-Thing Recall Pause a few times a day and intentionally notice 3 things.Then later, try to recall those 3 things without looking at notes. 2. Repeat and Restate When someone says something important, repeat it back in your own words. Example: “So you want me to call […]
Let me all the way inlet me past the surfacelet me feel the exact shape of youlet me know you without translationlet me close the gap for one second. That’s part of what love does. It makes the distance between us feel both more miraculous and more intolerable. On one hand, DAMN, I can know you this much at all. And on the other hand, FUCK, why can’t I […]
We keep thinking our current view of things is the structure of reality and the universe itself. We get taught and come up with myths, categories, labels, and certainty because they help us orient but then we get arrogant and start forcing those views as the final, absolute truth instead of just temporary, provisional containers. Then when something new comes along like a different way of life, a new […]
a Misty Mindfulness Moment Get yourself situated in whatever way feels the least annoying. Sit down.Lie down.Curl up like a little creature.Wrap yourself in a blanket if you want. We don’t need perfect posture.We don’t need to pretend to be enlightened.We don’t need to pretend to be serene. Just be here. Take a breath in.Let it out. You do not need to become calm immediately.You do not need to […]
Our sense of self changes as we go through life. It is not just something you find once and keep forever. Sometimes we coast by or get so stuck in survival that we forget what matters to us. We start feeling disconnected from ourselves and wonder what the heck happened. These questions are meant to help us notice ourselves more clearly and begin teasing out the noise that keeps […]
reality is not the enemy of imagination if reality itself doesn’t move, then the fantasy eventually hits a wall
If I somehow find one daythat my heart stopped and gave waythen would I feel free and flyor would I just vanish and die Would I ever feel anything againor would it all be erased in the end?Sometimes that feels feels better insidewhen nothing else seems to feel alive.
Where is the part where one breaksIt’s the part that makes you feelThat the fog has liftedAnd all that it revealsAnd what do you do when you arrive to the truth?Do you take it onAnd make it work in a way for you?Or do you fall and let go of all the threadsOr do you build cages all around you instead?
Love = being received.Mindfulness = receiving yourself.Therefore… mindfulness is an act of love. I still believe in the true kind of loveif they won’t give it, then I willto me and to everyone who chooses to stay
Suffering doesn’t disappear when you avoid itit just moves. It gets handed to whoever has the least power to refuse itor the most integrity to hold it. Then everyone calls that person the problem. That is scapegoating.