endure or move on

people want one answer
one “healthy” path
endure or move on
stay or go
let it go or fight

but real life
our life
isn’t made of those clean lines

endurance and movement aren’t opposites
they often happen at the same time
sometimes we move forward by enduring
sometimes we endure so that we can move forward

what people really want when they say “move on” is usually
Stop making me uncomfortable
Stop challenging what I believed
Stop showing me pain
Stop being inconvenient

they conflate silence with healing
they confuse composure with peace

but it’s not stuck
it’s processing
it’s trying to integrate something

and we can talk about it
because silence was where the harm lived

it’s not about choosing between
enduring and moving on
we can do both
and it can be messy and valid