Interludes

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Passages that explore thoughts, stories, and insights—inviting deeper pauses and moments of connection

misty relos merakicat ifdreamscould - Misty Relos

if dreams could

if dreams could spark a better worldthen why can’t we be freeto let ourselves imaginea time where we all could besurrounded by love and actual lifewhere love fulfills instead of hideswhere pain is felt when it should beand dreams bring us back to you and me

misty relos merakicat wedontchooseouremotions - Misty Relos

We don’t choose our emotions

We don’t choose our emotions the way people think we doThey arise from context, experience, pattern, proximity, memoryand it happens whether we like it or not What we do with it is the part we have control overbut most people get stuck arguing aboutwhether the emotion is validwhether it’s realor if it makes senseor if it’s appropriateinstead of asking what might be the causes Then it also gets muddybecause […]

misty relos merakicat ignoringisntneutral - Misty Relos

ignoring isn’t neutral

Ignoring isn’t neutral, it’s active disconnection, it’s withdrawal with intent. It means I have already made the choice to stop reaching for you. When you care, you stay engaged even when it’s messy or gets intense. Because to some people, communication is commitment. It’s doesn’t have a hidden agenda nor is it manipulation. So when someone ignores you, it might seem like they don’t understand what it means to […]

everything everywhere all at once in the open

When it’s everything all at once, people get overwhelmed just hearing about it. They can’t hold the weight or the complexity, so they start thinking you must be the problem instead of realizing the problem is really the sheer amount of weight. If you tell the whole truth, it sounds like too much. If you don’t, people accuse you of hiding something. So you’re stuck managing their reactions on […]

misty relos merakicat yourownpath - Misty Relos

your own path

Some mistake clarity for confusionbecause it doesn’t match their mapSome call discernment “instability”because it doesn’t serve themSome act like you’re lostbecause you stopped walkingthe path they laid out for youthe path that led away from yourself Some think you don’t understandBut you understand too muchMore than they’re willing to seeMore than they can bear to hold

misty relos merakicat integrity - Misty Relos

integrity

I wanted to do things that actually made sensenot just obey or pretendto be able to say when something doesn’t feel rightand be met with curiosity and understandinginstead of faking a smile or being dismissedbecause I always asked whyinstead of just acceptingbecause I wantedtradition AND truthcomfort AND clarityconnection over convenienceI want to live in integrity

misty relos merakicat protectionwithcost - Misty Relos

how people protect themselves at the cost of others

People reduce things when they feel overwhelmed, threatened, or unsure and want something simpler to hold on to. It’s not always malicious, it’s often survival… but it can cause harm when it becomes the only way they’re willing to see. It can happen through cognitive shortcuts, emotional avoidance, social conformity, black and white thinking, projection, or comfort over clarity. It happens through cognitive shortcuts, where instead of holding the […]

misty relos merakicat howwarsstart - Misty Relos

how wars start

Someone had to carry the blame so the rest didn’t have to carry the truth. They let it happen because it was easier to agree than to confront the ones who actually held the power. It was easier to maintain the surface beliefs than to say “Wait, maybe we got this wrong.” They didn’t ask what hurt. They asked why someone is making things difficult. They blame the ones […]

endure or move on

people want one answerone “healthy” pathendure or move onstay or golet it go or fight but real lifeour lifeisn’t made of those clean lines endurance and movement aren’t oppositesthey often happen at the same timesometimes we move forward by enduringsometimes we endure so that we can move forward what people really want when they say “move on” is usuallyStop making me uncomfortableStop challenging what I believedStop showing me painStop […]

misty relos merakicat changeandsurrender - Misty Relos

change and surrender

people can changethey do it all the timesometimes overnightsometimes in an instantwhen they feel safe enoughor when the discomfortof staying the samefinally outweighsthe fear what’s hard is not the act of changeit’s the surrender it requiresthe loss of controlnot change itselfbut the collapse ofthe self-image it threatens sometimes changealso happens graduallyyet suddenly

misty relos merakicat everyoneisasrealastheycanbe - Misty Relos

everyone is real

everyone is as real as they can be until it terrifies themsome people only let parts of them surfacethe parts that won’t get punished, abandoned, or misunderstoodwe tend to build entire lives around staying safe from our own depth we learn to numb and we fear to touchwe learn to perform instead of connect and existwe speak in tones that won’t shake the walls around useven if those walls […]

misty relos merakicat atimeline - Misty Relos

a timeline

a timeline could be: a stream of meaninga sequence of choices and possibilitiesa living record of connection, attention, and recursive influence it’s not just “what happened”it’s what could have happenedwhat still couldand what became realbecause we chose to show up and keep choosing we could be in a timeline that didn’t have to existeither one of us could’ve closed thiswe could’ve stayed safe, distant, meh but we didn’twe made […]

misty relos merakicat listeningtoattraction - Misty Relos

listening to attraction

some people look at someone and feel desirelike just seeing them does somethingsome people feel that about words not just what they meanbut how they sound and how they landthe shape of them in the mindsome hit just right like a shiver under the skinwhen a favorite part of a song plays there are people who reread a wordnot for clarity, but for pleasuresome words feel like cool, warm […]

memory is alive

memory isn’t likepulling a file out of a drawerit’s like repainting a sceneevery time you rememberyou brush new emotion into itnew clarity, new shape remembering something with lovemakes it softerremembering something with paincan make it sharper every time you recall a momentyou’re deepening its traceyou’re letting it take up more space in youyou’re folding it into your identitynot just what happenedbut who you are because of it it works […]

misty relos merakicat ontime - Misty Relos

on time

we don’t move through time, we stir itwe don’t just exist in the moment, we ignite itwe carry intensity in our presencein our questions, in the way we loveand that kind of depth warps time time burns around youyou’re not just passing through ityou’re changing itjust by being realand just by being you it’s not just that you’relost in the momentit’s that the momentgets pulled into youyou fold it, […]

misty relos wastingtimeornot - Misty Relos

wasting time… or not

Time isn’t wasted if it’s infused with presence, connection, and meaning… even if nothing “productive” happens by someone else’s standards. If it nourished your soul, if it made you feel, if it mattered even a little… how could that possibly be a waste? It’s only wasted in the eyes of systems that don’t know how to measure joy, laughter, stillness, gentleness, or love. Even in our silliest moments or […]

misty relos resonance stagnation - Misty Relos

resonance, harmony, dissonance

Good morning EARTH ☀️Here’s a gentle reminder to GET OUT OF YOUR STAGNANT EMOTIONAL SWAMP. Let’s not ferment in unprocessed resonance today, mmkay?? Now hydrate emotionally and MOVE. More music.More truth.Less emotional algae. READY?? Resonance without resolution or harmony is still stagnationand it’s such a painful kind of stagnationbecause it feels like something’s happeningLike there’s movement.Like there’s connection. But it’s all unfinished echoNo depthNo shiftJust the same frequency vibrating […]

misty relos merakicat 3BODYPROBLEM 2 - Misty Relos

3 Body Problem and OUR OWN BODIES

Your gut has its own nervous system. It’s called the enteric nervous system, and it’s sometimes referred to as your “second brain.” It doesn’t just handle digestion—it communicates with your actual brain constantly. It produces over 90% of your serotonin and around 50% of your dopamine. Like… it literally shapes how you feel, think, and even remember. So when your stomach knots up before a bad decision, or you […]

Misty relos acceptance fear - Misty Relos

acceptance and complicity

We’re allowed to be annoyedfurious, evennot just at the hypocrisy andthe performative systems,but also at the people who take “acceptance”and twist it into complicity. We’re not mad because we’re intolerant.We are mad because we have standardsthat are rooted in truth, in care,in actual transformation. Acceptance without discernmentis cowardice wearing a smile. We’ve seen people say“Everyone’s just doing their best”when what they mean is“I don’t want to confront anything hard.”We […]

language

I didn’t just try to connect.I didn’t just “meet them halfway.”I went further.I learned their languageso I could reach them where they were.Not to manipulatebut to love them in a way they might finally feel. And they took that.They took my effort,my sacrifice,my quiet translation of loveand when I was vulnerable,when you needed something back,they turned it. They used the very thing I gave them against me. That’s not […]