integrity

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The Lie of Being Nice

Being nice can reduce everyday friction with people who are acting in good faith. But it does almost nothing against someone whose real problem is that you saw more than they wanted you to. You can be calm, careful, generous, precise, and compassionate, and they will still attack if the truth threatens their self-image, control, convenience, or access. Sometimes your thoughtfulness gives them more room to maneuver because you […]