Being nice can reduce everyday friction with people who are acting in good faith but it does nothing against someone whose real problem is that you bring awareness to the things they would rather avoid. You can be calm, careful, generous, precise, and compassionate, and they will still not like it if the truth threatens their self-image, control, convenience, or access. Then thoughtfulness gives them more room to cloud […]
betrayal
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They hid themselves in the language of goodness while letting cruelty and othering happen. They mishandled things that should have been basic integrity. They had the language of regulation, mindfulness, accountability, nonjudgment, effectiveness… then they behaved in ways that were mindless, ego-protective, invalidating, and harmful. They doled out harm while claiming to be the kind of people or system that should know better, while using values-language to protect them, […]