Being nice can reduce everyday friction with people who are acting in good faith but it does nothing against someone whose real problem is that you bring awareness to the things they would rather avoid. You can be calm, careful, generous, precise, and compassionate, and they will still not like it if the truth threatens their self-image, control, convenience, or access. Then thoughtfulness gives them more room to cloud […]
betrayal
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They hid themselves in the language of goodness while letting cruelty and othering happen. They mishandled things that should have been basic integrity. They had the language of regulation, mindfulness, accountability, nonjudgment, effectiveness… then they behaved in ways that were mindless, ego-protective, invalidating, and harmful. They doled out harm while claiming to be the kind of people or system that should know better, while using values-language to protect them, […]
Even Pinocchioa puppet made of woodhad someone who believed in himbefore he ever proved himself. Someone who wanted him to be real.Someone who longed for his joywho risked everything to find him when he got lost. I never had a Geppetto.Not anyone who looked at me Not one who said I already matter.Not one who said I choose youNot one who said I believe you Instead everyone doubted meDismissed meUsed […]
She wanted me to smile through things that caused me painShe wanted to erase everything i ever namedShe wanted me small so she wouldn’t ever fearShe wanted control and pretended to hear Instead she left me in a lifetime of doubt and sorrowAnd filled the spaces with abandonment and shallowWords replace where love used to beAs i let go of her chains permanently