Why do so many unconsciously or even consciously uphold a twisted value system that has made emotional expression a liability, vulnerability into a weakness, and has framed conflict as failure rather than something that can lead to understanding and growth? Peace has become about quiet and not about truth, about compliance and not authenticity. Healing has started to look like emotional detachment and not integration.
The people who suppress their anger, grief, pain, and longing are seen as mature while the ones who cry and point out hurts are seen as difficult, disrespectful, or unstable. Why suppress when it doesn’t lead to actual growth and hurts us in ways that make it even difficult to map out how the hurt continues to happen. How can we build honest relationships when we aren’t allowed to be honest with our feelings?